Sexul purity= Rape?

man and woman

Dianna E. Anderson at RH Reality Check, has written an article claiming that the “Purity Movement” enables rape, and even goes so far as to imply that it encourages rape within marriage.

Having grown up in the super Evangelical Southern Baptist Church, and I can say without a doubt that the author has her facts wrong. She sets up multiple straw men about what “we” are taught about purity, and then twists them into something they simply are not.

1. “her body does not belong to her, but rather to her future husband”

The author of the article fails to make a distinction between the idea of spiritual belonging, and the legalistic definition of belonging, where the woman would be  mere “property”. Based on the terms and tone used in the rest of the article, I believe she is arguing that evangelicals believe that a husband literally owns the wife’s body. This is not what we are taught at all, if someone told me my body was the literal “property” of my husband I would laugh in their face. Both sexes are taught that our bodies are a temple and that we should honor God with our bodies (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). We are taught that in a spiritual sense our bodies first belong to God, and that the use of that body within marriage is a form of worship. Married couples, through their covenant with God, belong to each other. That’s right, boys took the same pledge, and are told their body belongs to their future wife (1 Corinthians 7:4). Therefore this would counteract the author’s implication that we are being taught medieval gender roles.

2. “they take this so far as to believe that a wife’s body is not her own, that a woman cannot say no to her husband, and that it is sin to withhold sexual gratification from one’s partner”

I got married 4 years ago when I was 19, and my husband and I went through fairly intense Christian pre-martial counseling beforehand. At NO point was I ever told that my body belonged to my husband, or that I wasn’t allowed to say no, or that it was a sin to say no. And twisting the words of ONE book doesn’t mean that the purity movement as a whole teaches that.

3. “women are instructed that they must say no to sex at every turn, and if they do not they are responsible for the consequences.”

I’m not even sure what this argument is supposed to mean… I guess if we are talking about pregnancy, sure. But what is truly emphasized is BOTH sexes respecting each other, and respecting their future husband or wife, by not engaging in sexual behavior. In this day and age (rampant STDs, skyrocketing rates of unwed motherhood) abstinence is a REALLY healthy, and fiscally responsible choice.

4. “women are not equipped to fully understand what consent looks like or what a healthy sexual encounter is. When the only tool you’re given is a “no,” shame over rape or assault becomes compounded—because you don’t necessarily understand or grasp that “giving in” to coercion or “not saying no” isn’t a “yes.”

We are taught very clearly what a healthy sexual encounter looks like- one that takes place within the bounds of marriage, between two people who are committed to one another, and love each other. And how does the author reach the conclusion that women who pledge to not have sex before marriage don’t understand what rape is, exactly? She makes a huge leap and really seems to be implying that evangelical women are too stupid to know that being forced is wrong.

5. “a girl has the power to say no up until the moment she sends the wrong signals, because men are animals who can’t control themselves.”

While there is an emphasis on modesty within the purity movement, its not to “slut shame”, its a sign of respect for your own body (which is again, a temple). The idea is that everywhere you go, and everything you do is a reflection of God. When people look at you, do they see Christ? Or do they see cleavage and a miniskirt? Its not that wearing a miniskirt makes you a bad person, but it can affect you as a living testimony of God’s grace. For women. we are warned that our clothing choices can harm the men around us. Boys are taught that women are not to be treated as mere bodies- but as a sister in Christ. They are urged to not lust after women, and to be pure even in their thoughts (Job 31:1). This is hard (for women too), and as women we shouldn’t make it harder for them to be pure by dressing in a way that invites impure thoughts (1 Cor. 8:12). Likewise, men are asked to not make it harder for us to remain pure.

6. “This is the motivation behind several Protestant Christian colleges and Catholic hospitals suing the government in order not to provide birth control to their employees.”

No, the motivation is about not allowing the government to make you pay for a service that is in violation of your genuine religious beliefs. Some people believe that contraception is sinful, and that they are required by their faith to neither use it, nor provide it for others. You don’t have to agree with this belief, but our nation was founded so that we could chose to practice our own religions without interference by the government (1st amendment anyone? Congress can’t prohibit the free exercise of religion).

7. “evangelical, right-wing politicians do not believe women have a right to their own bodies, whether that control be related to purity or rape or birth control or abortion.”

I think I already addressed why the claim about a woman’s body is false in my first point. But now I’ll go further on in the argument about contraception & abortion:

  • Many evangelicals don’t have issues with contraception, that is generally more of a Catholic issue. As a non-catholic I’m not really in a position to defend their views on it never being allowed. But as far as evangelicals are concerned, some of us have an issue with forms of contraception that can change the lining of the uterus, causing an already fertilized egg (a unique human being that I’ll talk more about in a second) to not be able to implant. This ends the pregnancy. It essentially is the same as an abortion at an early stage.
  • Abortion for us is not about saying women don’t have control over their own bodies, but rather that they don’t have control over another human being’s body, namely the body of the pre-born child. From the moment of conception, a child’s body is its own, not a “part” of the mother. The child has its own unique DNA, and blood type. The child is also biologically autonomous, and directs its own development and growth- relying on the mother only for nutrients and protection. If you truly believe in bodily autonomy, you should be pro-life.
  • What “we” DO believe: That a woman has no right to violently destroy her child’s body through abortion. That she doesn’t have the right to allow a doctor to rip her vulnerable child limb from limb. That she doesn’t have the authority to allow her child to be vacuumed out of womb and killed. Not because she doesn’t have a right to her own body, but because those actions are on the body of another human being.

I understand that abstinence isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but to compare it to rape- to imply that it enables or encourages rape- is beyond reprehensible. Thousands of men and women chose to remain pure for their future spouse as a result of deeply held religious beliefs, and their decision should be respected.

#Stand4Life in Austin

Thursday at 5:30 am, after a 10 hour greyhound bus ride to meet Students For Life in Austin, I was unsure of what to expect from the many pro-abortion supporters I knew had gathered at the Texas state capitol.

The first day was great- the Students for Life group got to meet Rick Santorum, who encouraged us in our fight for the unborn. I definitely consider him to be one of my personal heros, so having him speak to us was amazing! We also met with Texas Representatives Bryan Hughes and Steve Toth, who welcomed us to the Capitol with open arms and lots of prayers. Later on, these two fine gentlemen would provide our group with hotel rooms just for us to shower in, after the YMCA kicked SFLA out.

After lunch, we headed down to San Antonio to meet the Planned Parenthood bus tour for a silent protest. There are pictures of some of the signs below, although several of them were simply too vulgar to post. While the people that showed up for that event weren’t as bad as the ones we would see the next day, there was still some vitriol hurled our way. But most horrifying to me was that when people read the sign the girl next to me was holding, that said “Wendy Stands With Gosnell”, they had no idea who Gosnell is.

Friday morning we arrived at the Capitol around 10 am and got to work. Some of us, like me, were passing out red “LIFE” tape; others were going around getting our fellow pro-lifers to sign the Statement of Peace, vowing to remain a peaceful presence; still others handed out snacks and water to ALL of those standing in line waiting to enter the gallery, pro-life or not.

At lunch, we walked to a park near the Capitol, where the Austin Knights of Columbus were nice enough to provide us with burgers, chips, cookies and drinks. Earlier in the week they had provided SFLA with many inflatable mattresses so that we didn’t have to sleep on the floors of the churches we were staying at.

When we returned from lunch, Representative Bob Duell provided us with blue shirts to pass out, along with water for anyone that needed it. Once back inside, things had taken a turn for the ugly- as we prayed, we were yelled at repeatedly (See videos below) and we began to hear the reports of DPS confiscating bricks and bottles of urine and feces, that pro-aborts had planned to throw at the senators after voting. At one point, a member of our group was violently shoved by the protesters as he recorded the scene in the Rotunda. We had heard other rumors about potential violence planned by the protesters, and had been warned that we might be asked to evacuate at any moment.

Keeping this in mind, a friend and I got in line for the gallery, hoping to be there when the historic vote finally went down. As we snaked through the line, things continued to get louder and louder as the majority of the pro-abortion crowd gathered in the rotunda, chanting, and strangely bouncing tampons off an orange flag. As we neared the gallery, the roar grew so loud that we could hardly hear each other talk, we later found out that this is when the group of women tried to padlock themselves to the gallery railing, one of which succeeded and had to be cut free. Shortly after this, we were informed that DPS had determined that the atmosphere was too dangerous for those wearing blue, and pro-lifers were being escorted out of the public parts of the Capitol, and into various offices. Our group gathered in Representative Hughes office, where we were locked in for our own safety and guarded by DPS officers.

As more than fifty people sat in the office, we were able to watch the live feed of the vote, and saw history in the making. When the final session started in the wee hours of Saturday morning, our group stood in a cramped office and prayed along with the Senate, while the pro-abortion advocates outside the gallery booed the same prayer. Minutes later, cheers rang out all around me and tears of joy were shed, as the final vote count was announced and the bill officially passed. A victory for the unborn had been achieved, and I was glad I had been on the right side of history. But history was not the only thing I had experienced in Austin. As I knelt in prayer in the rotunda, and was surrounded by hundreds of pro-abortion protesters angrily mocking my faith, I became convinced that I also experienced spiritual warfare. As a Christian, I felt secure that God would keep me safe, and I knew there were people all over the nation praying for our safety, but in my heart I knew fear.

I am so thankful for the Texas DPS who worked hard to ensure our safety, and to Representative Hughes for providing us a safe harbor in this storm. I am also grateful to the many people who donated food and supplies to the SFLA group, so that we could focus on supporting the bill, and saving babies!

Below I have compiled pictures and videos of the sights and sounds from this weekend. WARNING- some of the signs are very vulgar and may contain foul language. Unless otherwise noted, they are my personal photos and videos.

“Pray you’ll need it” Chant

“You Don’t Care if Women Die” Chant

I AM THE 53%

My Dad worked nights so I could go to private school and get the best education possible.
I started working on the day it became legal for someone to hire me- my 16th birthday.
I’ve plunged toilets, cleaned up puke, and interned for free- because I believe hard work is how you achieve the American Dream, NOT government handouts.
I want a family but I realize that I cannot afford one right now, so I work hard so that one day I can.
I took out students loans, and will probably take out more- because I believe education is an important self-investment.
I have some credit card debt, but I don’t blame Wall Street or greedy corporations-I blame myself for buying too many shoes!
I don’t like the direction our country is going but instead of sitting around with a sign, I ran for office, I volunteer for candidates I believe in, and I WORK to affect change.
I AM THE 53%

Open Message to “Occupy Wall Street”

Dear Occupy Wall Street:

GROW UP!

Hi, my name is Deanna. I work hard and go to school. I’m paying a lot of money for school because I want to better myself. I work hard at my job because I believe the American Dream is earned, not given by the government. I take out student loans, and I understand why they need to be paid back. I went two years without health care and didn’t complain. I live within my means and do not blame any one else for any debt that I accrue. I am in the Tea Party. I do not get paid for that, I do not quit my job to participate. I do not call for violence or violate the law in my protest. I do not violate property rights. I know what I believe in:

God

The Sanctity Of Life

A Small Government

Low Taxes

Hard Work

I don’t expect anyone to give me things for free. I don’t think the government is my sugar daddy. I might fall in the category of “poor” but I do not blame wall street, and I know that increasing taxes on the people who create jobs in this country will NOT CREATE JOBS!

So I have some advice for you:

Go Home

Take a Shower

Go to class

Get a Job

Get off your butt

Work Hard

GROW UP AND STOP BLAMING EVERYONE ELSE FOR YOUR PROBLEMS!!!!!!

iChooseLife

Her name is Joanne Schiebel. In 1954, she was a young unmarried college student who discovered that she was pregnant. In the 1950s, her options were limited. She could have had an abortion – but the procedure was both dangerous and illegal. She could have gotten married, but she wasn’t ready and didn’t want to interrupt her education. Joanne opted, instead, to give birth to the baby and put it up …for adoption.And so it was that in 1955, a California couple named Paul and Clara adopted a baby boy, born out-of-wedlock, that they named Steven.This adopted baby grew into a man who changed the world. We celebrate his life and his accomplishments and wish him the best in the afterlife. The baby’s name is Steve Jobs.

If you are thankful for the life of Steve Jobs; if you are thankful for the contributions he has made to the world and your life then today…thank his mother Joanne Schiebel for choosing life.

Imagine for a moment how many Steve Jobs have been aborted. Perhaps the baby that God gave us to cure Cancer? Perhaps the baby that would have grown up and invented an alternate fuel method that would decrease or completely nullify our dependency on gas?

I saw this on Facebook and I was shocked, I had no idea that Steve Jobs was adopted. As the world mourns the life of this visionary, we must remember that he was only able to do what he did because HIS MOTHER CHOSE LIFE.
Everyday there are 4,000 innocent children lost in the name of “choice”. That’s 4,000 potential Steve Jobs, Mother Theresas, Presidents, Writers, Doctors, Teachers, Pastors, Missionaries, Scientists, and Visionaries.
As someone who was adopted, I can speak to the idea of potential with authority. I’m not done with my life yet, and I believe that I can continue to affect change. I will continue to fight against abortion until all of my innocent brothers and sisters have the chance to do the same.

What is in a name?

I’ve been asking myself this over the past few weeks as I’ve enjoyed a barrage of opinions regarding my endorsement of Conservative Independent Phillip Templeton over Republican Michael Corbin.

There have been many who have applauded my choice, thanking me for standing up for my convictions and making a difficult choice.

There have been a few who explain my folly away as a transgression of youth.

And there have been a handful who have been rude and intolerant of anything but their own opinion on the matter.

I have been the recipient of some nasty e-mails, comments, and letters.

I have been kicked out of the Professional Women’s Republican Club.

My picture has been removed from the Louisiana Federation of Republican Women’s Website.

I have been blatantly ignored by those I thought were my friends.

And you know what?

I don’t regret it.

I made a choice, an informed, well thought out choice. I chose to do the right thing over the easy thing. I chose to follow my conscience instead of the crowd.

But I wonder…

What has made the people who antagonize me over this choice forget that Republican is just a name? That it is a person’s convictions, policies,  and actions that make them a Conservative, not the letter (or lack thereof) behind their name on the ballot?

Its like they forgot about the RINOs who got us into the mess of having a Democratic Congress.

There is a reason the TEA Party and other movements have threatened to break up the Republican Party- its because we keep forgetting that being a REAL conservative is more important than being registered a certain way! Its because Republicans get elected and immediately forget to vote like they are Republicans! Until we decide to be CONSERVATIVES before Republicans, there is no hope for our nation.

I’ve often scoffed at people who say that they didn’t leave the Republican Party, but that the Republican Party left them behind- but I am finally starting to understand what they meant.

 

Higher Education

According to The Advocate, the head of the LSU system makes around $600,000 a year. Not only is that more than 5x what Governor Jindal makes, but its even more than the PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES makes per year!

With all the budget cuts going on, why are these fat cat university presidents allowing the youth of Louisiana to carry the burden of increased costs? The first things to change under these situations should be the salaries of these guys, NOT tuition! How selfish do they have to be to keep their cushy checks when all over the state students are struggling to make ends meet, and are taking out loans so they can get an education? they should be ashamed of themselves.

I call on each and every one of the university heads, including Chancellor Marsala of LSUS, to cut their own salaried before anything else!

Jack Weiss Executive Staff Member LSU-Paul M Hebert Law Center $308,275
Eli Jones Director Academic Affair LSU $299,999
Roxane Townsend Assistant Vice President LSU-Board of Supervisors $285,000
Nicolas Bazan Academic Affairs Staff Administration LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $277,497
P Raymond Lamonica General Services Off LSU-Board of Supervisors $274,059
Elizabeth Fontham Director Academic Affair LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $273,936
Steve Nelson Director Academic Affair LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $272,500
Joe May President Louisiana Commission/Tech College BdSup-NP $271,800
Ronald Smith Executive Staff Member LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $266,683
William Richardson Executive Staff Member LSU-Agriculture Center $261,882
Mohammad Cheema Adjunct Faculty Northwestern State University $260,000
Astrid Merget Executive Staff Member LSU $260,000
H Edward Seidel Director Academic Affair LSU $255,050
Wayne Wilbright Executive Staff Member LSU/Health Care Services Division $254,800
Arthur Haas Professor LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $254,754
James Cofer President University of Louisiana-Monroe $252,886
Kevin Smith Professor LSU $252,654
William Cefalu Executive Staff Member LSU-Pennington Biomedical Res $252,037
Steven Smith Professor LSU-Pennington Biomedical Res $252,000
Harold White Executive Staff Member LSU-Health Sciences Center Shreveport $251,411
Charles Wilson Assistant To Director LSU $250,983
Joseph Moerschbaecher Iii Executive Staff Member LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $250,591
Henry Gremillion Director Academic Affair LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $250,000
Eric Hovland Professor LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $245,957
Patricia Molina Professor LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $245,000
Timothy Ryan Executive Staff Member University of New Orleans $244,062
Charles Sanders Professor LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $241,409
Rudolf Hirschheim Professor LSU $240,057
Lee Bairnsfather Assistant Vice President LSU-Board of Supervisors $240,000
Isiah Warner Executive Staff Member LSU $239,068
Michael Khonsari Director Academic Affair LSU $235,651
Peter Haynes Director Academic Affair LSU $235,560
Carolyn Hargrave Vice President LSU-Board of Supervisors $235,472
Carolina Cruz-neira Professor University of Louisiana-Lafayette $235,400
John Costonis Professor LSU-Paul M Hebert Law Center $234,866
Keith Schroth Academic Affairs Staff Administration LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $234,705
Brian Voss Executive Staff Member LSU $233,999
Janis Letourneau Academic Affairs Staff Administration LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $232,552
Brooks Keel Executive Staff Member LSU $231,535
Samuel Mcclugage Academic Affairs Staff Administration LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $228,469
Augusto Ochoa Professor LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $227,981
John Crain President Southeastern Louisiana University $227,945
Weihong Pan Professor LSU-Pennington Biomedical Res $226,590
John Hamilton Director Academic Affair LSU $225,87
Michael Gargano Jr Vice President LSU-Board of Supervisors $225,000
Joe King Executive Staff Member University of New Orleans $225,000
Larry Porter Assistant Head Coach LSU $225,000
Thomas Nolan Academic Affairs Staff Administration LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $224,700
Jack Winters Professor LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $224,700
Fredrick Barton Professor University of New Orleans $224,065
Cheney Joseph Jr Executive Staff Member LSU-Paul M Hebert Law Center $223,497
George Voyiadjis Professor LSU $220,759
Leonard Bok Professor LSU-Health Sciences Center New Orleans $220,500

This is just a sampling of the salaries of LSU System employees… search them all at http://blog.nola.com/graphics/2008/02/salary_details.html?appSession=422184851566388&RecordID=&PageID=2&PrevPageID=&cpipage=4&CPISortType=&CPIorderBy=